Permission to Put Yourself First

You wake up Monday morning and look around at your house and realize that practically everyhign in your life is in need of your attention. The house is a mess after a busy weekend, the kids have a long week of activities ahead of you, the pantry is bare, and the pets look like they haven’t been groomed in a year. Whew, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed in this moment and allow that anxiety thought cycle to kick into gear.

I know this is challenging, but right in that moment I’d like for you to think a little bit about embracing the idea of putting yourself first, embracing self-care, and creating an actual list of your own personal priorities in order to maintain your mental health. In a world that constantly demands our time and attention, it's easy to lose sight of our own needs and desires. We often find ourselves juggling multiple responsibilities and obligations, neglecting the most crucial aspect of our well-being: ourselves. However, giving yourself permission to choose yourself first is not selfish; it's an act of self-care and empowerment. By prioritizing your own needs, you are better equipped to serve others and lead a more fulfilling life.

Choosing yourself first means setting healthy boundaries and learning to say "no" when necessary. I feel like a broken record some days, but boundaries boundaries boundaries.  It's about recognizing your limits and not overextending yourself to please others at the expense of your own mental and emotional well-being. It's about acknowledging that self-care is not a luxury but a necessity. Taking time to recharge, engage in activities you love, and invest in your personal growth is essential for maintaining balance and finding joy in your daily life.

When you give yourself permission to choose yourself first, you send a powerful message to yourself and those around you. You communicate that your needs and aspirations matter, and that you value your own happiness and fulfillment. By taking care of yourself, you become a role model for others, encouraging them to prioritize their own well-being too. Remember, self-care is not selfish; it's a transformative practice that allows you to show up as your best self in all aspects of your life.

So basically, giving yourself permission to choose yourself first is an act of self-love and empowerment. By prioritizing your own needs and desires, setting boundaries, and practicing self-care, you can lead a more balanced, joyful, and fulfilling life. Remember, you are deserving of the love and attention you give to others. Embrace the power of choosing yourself first, and watch as your life transforms for the better.

Reflect on a time when you prioritized someone else's needs over your own. How did it make you feel? Did you notice any negative impacts on your well-being? How could you have approached the situation differently to prioritize yourself without feeling guilty?

List three activities or practices that bring you joy and make you feel rejuvenated. How often do you engage in these activities? If you find yourself neglecting them, what barriers or beliefs are holding you back? How can you overcome those obstacles and make space for these joyful moments in your life?

Explore any fears or concerns you have about choosing yourself first. What are the underlying beliefs or societal expectations that contribute to these fears? How can you challenge those beliefs and reframe your perspective to embrace self-care as a necessary and beneficial practice?

Remember, journaling is a personal and introspective process. Take the time to reflect on these questions honestly and without judgment. Use this opportunity to gain insights about yourself and develop a lose plan to prioritize your own well-being and happiness.

New Season, New Office, New Offering

Hello! Hope everyone’s transition from summer to fall is going well. I have some news…

After two and a half years of virtual therapy from a dark corner in my house, I am excited to announce that I am back in the office! I have moved to a new location (just down the street) and I am super excited to finally see everyone in person again! I am still in Pennington, but now I am on Main Street in the Howe Commons for those of you familiar with the area.

I have some more news…

I know so many people have been through the ringer the past few years and I think it’s fair to say that taking care of our mental health was put on the back burner a bit. I’ve seen articles and studies on our “new normal” since March 2020 and I think it’s fair to say that none of what we experienced was normal and nothing is new at this point, it’s simply been a slog through to where we find ourselves now. And I’m also hearing that the wait lists for mental health services are long and stressful, thus I am offering free 20 minute mental health checkups for anyone who hasn’t seen me in over 3 months or any new clients. You are under no obligation to book a session with me after the checkup, but if you want to resume/start sessions afterwards, of course you are welcome to, as I have a few open spots now that I’m back in my office. My goal is simply to do a check-in and make sure everyone is ok and maybe provide some direction if needed. The checkups will be available through my portal on Monday mornings during September and October and will be virtual. It will entail us going through a list of things with you to see where you are at, and to answer any questions or review any concerns that have been on your mind lately.

As always, I hope you are well and I look forward to catching up with those of you who I haven’t seen in a while! Even if you’ve moved on to a new phase of life, you know I love hearing from you.

Interested in connecting? Here’s the link to my online scheduler, if you have any trouble with it just send me an email at hello@breathebalancegrow.com.

Chat soon!

Meredith